I love Rihanna as much as the next person, perhaps even more, but I have to admit, I’m a little bit worried about her. According to several popular gossip sites/magazines she has been spending time with ex-boyfriend Chris Brown and has even been flying to see him in LA. I’m really hoping that isn’t true. Of course what she does with her life is her decision. Of course it’s entirely possible he’s changed. It just concerns me. If I had to guess, I’d say the rumors aren’t true. I’ve seen a lot of pictures of Rihanna, especially pictures like these from her vacation in Hawaii. Chris hasn’t been in any of these pictures and judging by how many pictures have shown up, I have to assume she’s been in Hawaii for a while. Perhaps that’s wishful thinking on my part but until I know for sure otherwise, that’s the assumption I’m going to go with. Rihanna is a strong, confident, beautiful woman regardless of whether or not the rumors are true and I respect her deeply. If she chooses to take him back, that’s her decision and I’ll stand by her. Doesn’t mean I won’t worry for her though.
Rhianna would be insane to take Chris Brown back after what he did. Insane. Of course it’s entirely her decision whether she goes back to him or not – she’s a grown woman after all. But it’ll be the wrong decision.
If I had a friend who experienced abuse at the hands of a lover or partner, left them, and then chose to go back to them, I wouldn’t have the heart to stand by that friend, not knowing if the abuse would happen again.
I hear you, Aldikoo. Like Wanda said, a rumor is all it probably is. I hope so. However, if she really is thinking of rekindling her relationship with him, then good luck to her. She’s gonna need it as I see no real evidence of Chris having changed.
It’s one thing to forgive someone for raising their hand to you. It’s another to go back to them. And if you choose to go back (which I don’t recommend), you should do so after real evidence (and lots of time) that they’ve changed.
She looks to be enjoying her holiday. Didn’t know she surfed.
I’ve had friends who have had experiences on both sides of the argument. Some have taken abusive men back only to suffer more abuse and others who have taken abusive men back to find a changed man. For some men (and I do mean SOME), losing the woman they love can be an eyeopener. I kind of get where Rihanna’s coming from. My ex was abusive and when we split up, I wanted him back despite the abuse. When I moved on, met someone else and got married, my ex saw it as a wake up call. He really worked on himself and his problems through therapy and real, honest effort and changed for the better. He’s married too now and his wife is one of my good friends. I don’t know what their life is like behind closed doors. There’s no way I could know, but from what I’ve seen, they seem really happy and he seems like he’s good to her. There are none of the tell tale signs of an abusive relationship. At the same time, there aren’t always signs so it’s hard to say. I don’t know what way it would go with Chris and Rihanna. He seems like such an angry person. Without really working on that, I’m not sure he could ever change. Then again, I don’t know him. It’s possible he already has. Or not. It’s probably a rumor and nothing more. I hope that if it isn’t, Rihanna really takes her time and is incredibly careful. I don’t ever want to see such a strong, confident woman so weak and vulnerable again.